There is almost nothing that weighs down any sane person like a long, tedious separation that drags for more than both parties involved want to, and the proof for this is that if you go and ask people that recently ended their relationship you will find out that something that most of them agree on is that they with that they have ended it sooner.
There are plenty of subtle hints that a relationship is going south if you took the time to search for them, so we have shortened a few of them here into five categories so that you can detect this warning signs a relationship is over in less time, ideally making your possible break up less damaging and flourish again before you knew it.
But first of all, let me mention two quick things before you start to really see the signs that a relationship is over:
Ending a relationship does not need to be a bad thing. Remember, it is a chapter of your life and you learned a lot of things. Not all breakups have to be painful and finish with hatred, you may just need to explain that you have other plans and that it is the best for both.
And, remember that any individual sign may be caused by something entirely different. You only need to worry if you detect multiple ones during a period of time, and that talking is very important in a couple so regardless of your choice you need to talk to your partner.
You spend less time together and don’t share that much things
Some of you may start to spend more time with friends, or with the family, or come home later from work or start to hang on way longer in the bathroom to be alone for a while.
This is simply a change of dedication and shows that you are less important in their daily schedule for reasons.
You also stop sharing information that you consider to be personal, or having deep conversations about topics they are passionate about; the conversations turn mundane and monotonous.
And you stop doing the things that characterized your relationship in the first place, the things you looked forward the most and that made you two fell in love. For each couple, this differs but some examples may be cooking, singing, going on dates, calling instead of texting, showering together, watching a show at the same time. If you start to notice this as well you are again encountering a lack of interest.
Now, you can also be doing this without noticing too, after all the relationship has two people in it. Everything can go both ways, remember.
You don’t notice the same level of attention and you feel alone by his/her side
Maybe you have to repeat yourself many times; maybe the other lets you talk and does not pay attention to your story, maybe if you ask them anything they do not know what to answer. They may simply not care that much anymore, and talking starts to feel one-sided and not as good as it once was.
If your S.O. starts to pay more attention to the phone than to you we are having a problem. This can make you feel less close and each day drifting further apart until you feel alone when you are together, or even prefer to not be with your partner at all. A lack of emotion and care leads to a deteriorating relationship in a short period of time. If you keep being together after the lack of care has been notorious for many months or even years it meant that your relationship turned into convenience and that the love between you two is almost gone.
You’re not talking about the future anymore
Talking about the future (Not only moving together or kids, but small things like what to eat, where to go for a date, what movie to choose, or more also meditate things like vacations, career, and job-related things that may affect your relationship and an unending number of other examples) is vital on a couple. And if they just do not care it may be one of the most important signs that the relationship is over for him or her.
If not, this means that the other person does not see you in their particular future, or that you being on it is not that big of a deal. This is a complicated thing to identify as the talks are not usually held that much in the first place, but you can notice when they simply stop.
Physical signs a relationship is over
Here we can find quite a lot:
Your sex life has changed.
Something seems… off. There is less passion, less dedication, or even less sex overall. The kisses taste different, your partner is way shyer…
This specific part can mean a lot of things but we will summarize it to that your partner is more distant and overall trusts you a little less than before and this distance you in the bedroom as well as in the other rooms.
You start to lose hair
Ignoring baldness, losing hair is a physical manifestation of that you are constantly stressed and an unhealthy relationship may be the cause behind it.
You have gained a little bit of weight without changing your diet or habits
This, as well as the hair, could very well be a sign of stress. More specifically, a hormonal disorder caused by the accumulation of stress and mood fluctuation.
Even if you are not in a relationship right now the small inexplicable changes in your weight can be linked to changes in your general wellbeing and psyche.
You feel… off.
Some call it your gut, some others call it a sixth sense, but however. You can feel that something is weird. The energy, the air, the atmosphere, call it however you like. But the relationship and the connection between you two is different, maybe you feel that they are not being sincere, or that you are less interested in checking out on them.
We hope to have given you a little insight into how to know if a relationship is worth saving after all or you are just better off continuing your life with the lessons you have leaned, but alone.
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